In her books Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Girl (2010) and Six Ways to Keep the “Good” in Your Boy (2012) author Cannah Gresh offers excellent observations on how the “wired world” and the electronic media is eroding family life, transferring attention and energy to other venues, lessening actual human contact and ability to see beyond “me”, and creating kids with shorter attention spans as electronic distractions loom larger. Of the 17 books she has written, she says the two above have been the most draining, Quote from Six Ways to keep the “Good” in Your Boy:
“Out of the 17 books I’ve written, Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Girl and this one have been the most emotionally draining for me. Why? Because our family is full of drama. We are often fighting to keep the “little” and the “good” in our family. We pick fights when our kids reach for the tree and I don’t like it…
I realize that television, cell phones, iPods and other technology also whisk our boys away from reality into a world that’s often unsafe. Overall, the average boy will absorb 38 hours a week of video games, computer time, music, television and radio. One of the obvious problems with being so plugged in is this: If your son is glued to a screen for 38 hours a week and, as most do, attends a public or private school, how much time does that leave for you to interact with him to form a value system that directs him towards “good”?.
Remember a prerequisite of being “good: is that your son is wired and programmed to consider the needs of others- tho think outside his own desired and be useful to his family and community.) It’s the fact that sitting in front of a screen is becoming an addiction in and of itself. We have seen it with gaming. A screen is the ultimate distraction.”
–Dannah Gresh Six Ways to Keep the “Good” in Your Boy
A good read for parents, particularly of boys, who are in trouble these days- from greater incidences of suicide and violence to declining educational performance. To reverse these trends will take hard work. Politicians and bureaucrats will not get the job done.